But I don't want to fast-forward 20 years.  I want to go slowly, and find out what happened to the parent who was bought out.  Let's call him Dad.  Did he then qualify for taxpayer-financed nursing-home care, while Mom got to keep the house?  What did he do with the "sales" proceeds, anyway?  Who was paying for the taxes, insurance, maintenance and repairs for the last two decades?  Was anyone else living in the house?