Google "The Military Spouses Residency Relief Act" and choose the Military One Source article dated 11-8-2021. This is what the Military gives their members. That article explains it pretty clearly on a 2-page read. Page 2, under What MSRRA does not do, 1st sentence says "MSRRA does not permit military spouses to maintain a legal residence in a state different than their active-duty service members." It also addresses if the spouse actually lives in a different state than the active duty member in a statement under the same heading - MSRRA does not apply. 

Maybe that will help clarify things a bit for you.